Uko umuntu yacika ku ngeso yo kwikinisha: Inzira y’ubugingo bushya n’igenzura ry’ibitekerezo
Kwikinisha (cyangwa masturbation) ni igikorwa umuntu akora agamije kwinezeza ku gitsina cye, atabikoze n’uwo bashakanye. Ni ingeso abantu benshi batangira mu buryo butabigambiriye, ariko ikaba ishobora gufata intera ikabaviramo kuba imbata y’ikirari n’icyifuzo kidashira.
Nubwo bamwe babifata nk’ibisanzwe, hari benshi bumva iyi ngeso ibabangamiye mu mutima, mu myitwarire, ndetse no mu mibereho yabo ya buri munsi. Abahanga mu by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bavuga ko gucika kuri iyo ngeso bishoboka, iyo umuntu afashe umwanzuro uhamye kandi akagira gahunda ihamye yo kubigobotora.
Impamvu zitera abantu kwishora mu kwikinisha
Kwikinisha si ingeso ivuka iturutse aho nta mpamvu. Abahanga bagaragaza impamvu nyinshi zishobora gutuma umuntu abyinjiramo, harimo:
1. Kwigunga cyangwa kubura urukundo: Abantu benshi babikora mu gihe bumva bonyine, cyangwa badafite umuntu ubatega amatwi.
2. Stress n’umunaniro w’ubwonko:Iyo umuntu afite ibibazo cyangwa agahinda, ashobora kubishakira ihumure mu bikorwa by’iryinyo.
3. Kureba amashusho y’urukozasoni (pornographie): Ibi ni bimwe mu bitera imitekerereze y’ubusambanyi ikarushaho gufata intebe mu bwonko.
4. Uburyo bw’imitekerereze: Hari igihe ubwonko bumenyera kurekura hormones z’ibyishimo (dopamine) igihe umuntu yikinisha, bigatuma biba nk’ifatizo ry’ibyishimo by’igihe gito.
Ingaruka zo kwikinisha kenshi
Nubwo bamwe bavuga ko ari uburyo bwo gusohora irari, abahanga bemeza ko kwikinisha cyane bishobora kugira ingaruka ku mubiri n’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe:
Kugabanya ubushake bwo gukora imibonano isanzwe hagati y’abashakanye.
Kugira ikibazo cy’umunaniro cyangwa guhora wumva nta bushake bwo gukora.
Guhindura imitekerereze, bigatuma umuntu ahora atekereza ku byerekeye ibitsina.
Kubura icyizere mu buzima cyangwa mu bandi bantu.
Kugira isoni no kwiyanga ku bw’iyo ngeso.
Uko umuntu yacika kuri iyo ngeso
Gucika ku kwikinisha bisaba ingufu zo mu mutima, ubwitonzi, n’ubushake bwo guhindura ubuzima. Dore inzira zifatika zafasha:
1. Menya impamvu ikubitera kubikora
Shyiraho urutonde rw’ibihe ubikora n’impamvu zibigutera. Ibi bizagufasha kumenya aho watangirira guhindura.
2. Irinde ibintu bikurura irari
Hindura imikoreshereze ya internet, ureke kureba amashusho y’urukozasoni, n’ibindi bikwibutsa ibyerekeye imibonano.
3. Tegura gahunda y’umunsi wawe
Iyo umuntu afite gahunda yuzuye (gukora siporo, gusoma, kwiga, gukora akazi), aba afite amahirwe make yo kwishora mu bikorwa by’iryinyo.
4. Kora siporo buri munsi
Siporo ifasha kugabanya imihangayiko no guhindura uko ubwonko burekura ibinyabutabire bitera irari. Irinde igihe kinini utagira icyo ukora.
5. Isengesho cyangwa meditation
Isengesho rifasha guhindura intekerezo n’imitekerereze. Ku badakurikiza idini, meditation cyangwa mindfulness bifasha mu kugenzura ibitekerezo by’ubusambanyi.
6. Shaka umuntu ukugira inama
Kuganira n’inshuti wizeye, umuyobozi w’itorero, cyangwa psychologist bigufasha kudaheranwa n’ikibazo. Kuba hari umuntu uzi intego yawe bituma ubaho ufite ikizere.
7. Wihanganire urugendo
Nta nzira y’ubugeni ibaho, birasaba kwihangana. Nubwo wasubira inyuma rimwe na rimwe, buri munsi ushobora kuba intambwe nshya.
Ubufasha bw’umuhanga burakenewe
Iyo wumva iyo ngeso imaze kukugiraho ingaruka zikomeye nko kubura icyizere, kudashobora gukora, cyangwa kugira irari ridacogora ni byiza kugisha inama umuhanga mu buzima bwo mu mutwe (psychologist cyangwa counselor).
Abo bahanga bagufasha kumenya aho byakomotse, bakagufasha gushyiraho gahunda yo kubigobotora mu buryo burambye kandi butagutesha icyizere.
Umusozo
Kwikinisha si iherezo, ahubwo ni ikimenyetso cy’uko umuntu ashobora kuba yabuze uko agenzura ibyiyumviro bye cyangwa umubiri we. Gucika kuri iyo ngeso bisaba guhindura imitekerereze, gukora ibikorwa byubaka, no kugirira umubiri wawe icyubahiro.
Umubiri wawe ni impano kandi igihe uhaye ubwenge bwawe ububasha bwo kuwugenzura, uba utangiye urugendo rwo kwisubiza agaciro n’amahoro yo mu mutima.