Dore uko wafata umugore wawe akirinda kuzajya aguca inyuma
Mu buzima bw’abashakanye, kimwe mu bibazo bikunze kugarukwaho cyane ni icyo gucana inyuma. Hari abagabo benshi bibaza impamvu abagore babo bashobora kujya mu bandi, nyamara akenshi usanga hari impamvu zituruka ku buryo urugo rubayemo. Abahanga mu by’imibanire y’abashakanye bavuga ko kugira urugo rukomeye bisaba kwitaho, kumvikana no kubahana hagati y’abashakanye.
Kimwe mu bintu by’ingenzi bifasha umugore kudatekereza kujya mu wundi mugabo ni uko yumva yitabwaho n’uwo bashakanye. Iyo umugore yumva ko umugabo we amuha agaciro, akamwumva kandi akamushyigikira mu buzima bwa buri munsi, bituma yumva yishimiye urugo rwe. Ibi bituma n’ibitekerezo byo kujya mu wundi muntu bitamworohera kuko aba yumva afite aho yishimira.
Ikindi gifasha cyane ni ibiganiro byubaka. Urugo rutarimo ibiganiro ruhinduka nk’aho abantu babana gusa ariko bataganira ku bibazo cyangwa ku byishimo byabo. Umugabo ufata umwanya akaganira n’umugore we ku buzima bwabo, ku migambi y’ejo hazaza ndetse no ku bibazo bafite, yubaka icyizere gikomeye mu rugo.
Kubahana na byo ni ingenzi cyane. Iyo umugore ahora atukwa, asuzugurwa cyangwa atitabwaho, ashobora gutangira kumva ko hari ahandi ashobora kubona kumwitaho. Ariko iyo yubashywe, akumva ijambo rye rifite agaciro mu rugo, bituma arushaho kumva ko urugo rwe ari rwo rufite agaciro kurusha ibindi byose.
Abahanga mu mibanire bavuga kandi ko urukundo rugomba kugaragazwa, atari amagambo gusa. Ibikorwa bito nko kumwereka ko umwitayeho, kumufasha mu buzima bwa buri munsi cyangwa kumutunguza mu bintu byiza bishobora gutuma urukundo rukomeza gukomera.
Hari n’ikindi cy’ingenzi: kwizerana. Iyo mu rugo habayeho kugenzura cyane, gushinja undi ibyaha adakoze cyangwa kumukeka buri gihe, bishobora gusenya icyizere. Ariko iyo hari ukwizerana no kubwizanya ukuri, bituma buri wese yumva afite umutekano mu mubano.
Abasesengura iby’imibanire bavuga ko umugore akunda kuguma mu rugo rufite amahoro, aho yumva akundwa kandi yubashywe. Ibi bituma urugo ruba ahantu heza ho kubaho ku bashakanye bombi, bityo ibitekerezo byo gucana inyuma bikagabanuka cyane.
Mu by’ukuri, kubaka urugo rukomeye si inshingano z’umugabo gusa cyangwa iz’umugore gusa, ahubwo ni inshingano z’abashakanye bombi. Iyo buri wese agerageje kwita ku wundi no kubaha urugo rwabo, bituma rukomera kandi rugakomeza kurangwa n’urukundo n’icyizere.